Edition Matrix
Comparison of content across all editions
| Category | Single – Dating & Resonance 726 codes | Couples – Long-term Relationship 994 codes | In Balance – When conversations need stability 582 codes | Single – Dating & Resonance 29 codes | In Balance – When conversations need stability 13 codes |
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| Alter Ego & Identity (AEI)Name alternative sides/roles, set boundaries, mark the return. | - | - | - | ||
| Bi-Games (BI)Discuss bi-curiosity and fantasies respectfully, clarifying boundaries. | - | - | - | ||
| Gaze & BodyShow photos/details/mood - sensual, but not nude. | - | - | |||
| Emotions & Safety (ES)Uncertainty, reassurance, easing the pressure, slowing the pace, ensuring a secure conclusion. | - | - | |||
| Explicit: Images & Videos (E)Nude photos/videos and variations – entirely voluntary, revocable at any time. | - | - | - | ||
| Fantasy & Mind (FM)Share fantasies, enjoy daydreams together, without the need for action. | - | - | |||
| Fantasy vs. Reality (FR)Categorise fantasy, exclude/ postpone implementation, define boundaries. | - | - | |||
| Flirting & Mind MoviesPlayful proximity, compliments, vivid imagination, and excitement – without any direct demands for action. | - | - | |||
| Boundaries & Taboos (BT)No-gos, Maybe, Safe spaces, Saying/listening to no, Accepting stop. | - | - | |||
| Climax & Conclusion (CC)Talking about climax/peak, context, pace, and freedom from pressure. | - | - | |||
| Inner Dialogue (ID)Ambivalence, triggers, inner conflicts, sorting without conclusion. | - | - | |||
| Intimacy & Sharing of Desire (I)Deeper questions about devotion, trust, boundaries, intimacy, and (partial) touch. | - | - | |||
| Communication & Emotional Closeness (CE)Check-in, needs, listening, clarification, and closure. | - | - | |||
| Body & Senses (BS)Mindful awareness of breath, warmth, scent, touch, and silence. | - | - | |||
| Physical Traits & Attraction: General (PT-A)Naming attraction, insecurities, and fantasies without judgment. Subjectively, voluntarily, without expectation. | - | - | |||
| Physical Features & Attraction: Breasts (PF-A)Attraction, insecurities, images/norms, acceptance – without judgment. | - | - | |||
| Physical Features & Attraction: Classification & Safety (KM-S)Safety, boundaries, pause, debrief, and alignment on physical topics. | - | - | |||
| Physical Traits & Attraction: Genitals & Primary Characteristics (PT-A)More explicit conversations about genital attraction, shame, comparison, and safety – without any expectation of action. | - | - | - | ||
| Physical Traits & Attraction: Vulva & External Features (PT-A)More explicit conversations about external features, shame, and diversity – without expectations of action. | - | - | - | ||
| Physical Diversity & Age (PD)Respectfully reflect on the attraction to different body types and ages (18+ only). | - | - | |||
| Slowness & Reduction (SR)Reduce the tempo, embrace silence, enjoy pauses, and deepen your experience in the here and now. | - | - | |||
| Void & Disinterest (VDI)No conversation/no input/space/silence – respectfully acknowledge. | - | - | |||
| Lesbian (L)Direct expressions of female sexual intimacy (fantasy/interest). | - | - | - | ||
| Lesbian & Gay (LG)Discussing same-sex desire as a fantasy or interest. | - | - | - | ||
| Massage, Touch & Bodywork (MTB)Massage/oil/breathing/relaxation – with or without a sexual aim. | - | - | |||
| Courage & Expression (M)Brave, honest, vulnerable – wishes, questions, straight talk. | - | - | |||
| Resonance & Connection (RC)Revisiting, feedback, gratitude, integration, closure, and congruence. | - | - | |||
| Closeness without Sex (N)Safety, holding, calm, connection without action. | - | - | |||
| Places & Situations (PS)Places/Situations as Inspiration for Fantasy or Framework. | - | - | - | ||
| Planning: Boundaries (G)Boundaries, safewords, withdrawal, body signals, and aftercare. | - | - | |||
| Planning: Location (LOC)Clarify the place, atmosphere, retreat, and setting. | - | - | |||
| Planning: Mood (S)Establish the underlying mood, tempo, music, humour, words/silence. | - | - | |||
| Planning: Wishes (W)Express wishes, prioritise them, mark as fantasies, adjust or park them. | - | - | |||
| Planning: Time (P)Plan timing, breaks, flexibility, and debriefing. | - | - | |||
| Roles & Identity (RI)Lead/follow/observe, soft/strong, change roles, consistency. | - | - | |||
| Roles & PlayConsciously choose roles, lead/follow, relinquish/take control – with clear rules. | - | - | |||
| Shadows & Vulnerability (SV)Addressing shame, fear, rejection, and difficult topics with care. | - | - | |||
| Self-Love (K)Consciously experience solo sexuality (mindfulness, pace, perception). | - | - | - | ||
| Play & Lightness (SP)Humour, teasing, light-heartedness, playful tension without pressure. | |||||
| Symbolism & Signs (SZ)Silent signals for closeness, withdrawal, stop, agreement, safety. | - | - | |||
| Trans (T)Direct expressions regarding sexual intimacy with a transgender person (fantasy/interest). | - | - | - | ||
| Desire & FantasySharing wishes, desires, and fantasies – without the expectation of fulfilment. | - | - | |||
| Preparation & Hint Codes (VC)Warnings, readiness, pause, safety check, conclusion, and consent. | - | - | |||
| What do I expect? (HE)Expectations regarding closeness, pace, leadership, safety, and boundaries. | - | - | |||
| How do I feel? (GF)Naming emotional states – from stress to connection. | - | - | |||
| Tenderness & Care (TC)Caring, security, gentle closeness, mindful transitions. | - | - | |||
| Anal – Agreement & Safety (AN)Anal theme with preparation, pace, safeword, and debriefing. | - | - | - | - | |
| Adult Shop (ESH)Shared curiosity, playful inspiration, and a conscious selection of things that enhance desire, closeness, or ambiance – without any pressure to buy or perform. | - | - | - | ||
| Photos & Films in Intimacy (PFI)Agreement regarding photographing/filming in intimate moments. Voluntary, revocable, clear consent. | - | - | - | - | |
| Watching Porn Together (PS)Watch together or synchronously, clarify the framework/stop/post-discussion. | - | - | - | - | |
| Group Dynamics & Observation (GD)Reflection questions on dynamics, roles, and emotions in group contexts. | - | - | - | - | |
| Constellations & Dynamics (CD)Discuss threesomes/foursomes/group dynamics or observations as a fantasy or agreement. | - | - | - | - | |
| Body-related Arousal & Characteristics (SAE-K)Expansion on Body-Related Arousal: Questions about posture, details, sensuality, and reactions. | - | - | - | - | |
| Power, Watching & Erotic Roles (PWER)Power dynamics, leadership/following, observation, responsibility, and protection. | - | - | - | - | |
| Oral Closeness & Intimacy (OCI)Oral intimacy: desires, boundaries, pace, safety, context. | - | - | - | - | |
| Couple Opening & Swing (PSW)Discuss opening/swinging as a fantasy or its implementation, rules, boundaries, and debriefing. | - | - | - | - | |
| Sexual Attraction & Arousal (SAA)Extension to Sexual Attraction & Arousal: Questions about arousal, presence, tension, and perception – expressed as a statement, fantasy, or feeling. | - | - | - | - | |
| Toys – Curiosity & ExpansionToy themes: being curious, exploring slowly, safety, and debriefing. | - | - | - | - | |
| Trust, Power & Relationship Games (TPRG)Reflection on power, responsibility, rules, safety, and coherence. | - | - | - | ||
| Watching Self-Pleasure (WP)Watch on-site or via video, clarify rules/stop/recording. | - | - | - | - |